my parents are in town... my dad cussed in front of DD and I hate
it... cringe every time... 'jackass', 'asshole', you name it..
including *blush* racial slurs... and I'm such a chickenshit I don't
say anything...
yes, I can cuss like a sailor but not in front of DD
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No, it doesn't make you a prude at all. There are things we do that we know we shouldn't do in front of our kids. It's a shame he doesn't know any better.
I remember the first time my dad popped my daughter in the back of the head as we were walking along shopping (she did something that annoyed him). The mama bear in me boiled up and I told him NOT to do that again. Please. :D
I know it's hard to correct your parents...but, I agree with you Chris. I never cuss in front of my friend's kids, I just think it's bad form.
Kids LOVE to repeat stuff....=/
Christine, I support you and feel you *HAVE* to say something. You are her parent, and it is up to you how she is raised and what she is exposed to, not them.
I cannot stand hearing parents swear in front of their kids and then chastising the children if they swear. It's a matter of respect, both for others and for yourself. My parents didn't swear often. I recall my mom saying the word "shitty" in reference to a poo, one time. My father would swear when he would go on a tirade, but that was maybe two or three times a year.
I think it helped me to learn how to act and speak appropriately as an adult. I NEVER (other than one time at the end) swore in front of my mother. And that was "Hell." I wasn't allowed to say Gosh or Geez, Darn or Dang, or Heck or Shoot, because to her that was swearing. Her thought was that if you were saying one of those words, everyone knew what you were trying to say and that you really meant to swear. Which I think is a bit over the top, but I rarely use those words even today. (I just swear for real.)
I think I can count on one hand the number of times I've sworn in front of my dad. I'm nearly 40.
Imagine your parents were to watch DD for you for any length of time, you need them to know you do NOT want any swearing in front of her. Imagine what she would bring back in a long weekend at Grandpa's...
I know... but I am SUCH the chickenshit... *sigh*... he'd probably get pissed and not talk to me for a month... (yeah, I know - his loss, but...)
and what really truly sucks is I had a fuct up childhood (was never good enough)... so we never tell DD that she herself is bad, the behavior is bad, but not her... last Feb for DH's & my 10th anniversary, we went to St Louis, they watched her for I think 2 days... we came back to Dallas and she kept telling me what a 'bad girl' she was... made me cry every time I thought about it.... :(
i had a similar circumstance with an adult family member saying something in front of my daughter (who is now 24) that she shouldn't have. what i did was i took my daughter into another room making sure i was within hearing distance of the offender. i explained to her why those words are not nice and how when people say those words it makes them sound terrible to others. then i was pratically yelling out the door to the other person that ignorant people say things like that. i got tough with the half closed door between us. just keep enforcing the good skills in your daughter and consider the occasional bad things she hears or sees as learning experiences for her.
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